Call Us +1-555-555-555

Talking with Children About Disturbing News

Alison Faison • October 20, 2023

Provide an open, calm, and safe space to talk.

When I talk with my teens about stressful topics, I often repeat questions and over-communicate. They remind me that they have already answered the question and that yes, we have talked about this before. (They have also heard a lifetime of Calvary sermons.) I then need to check the anxiety and fear that I feel about them seeing traumatic images or experiencing a scary event. How much do children and youth need to talk about events that happen at school, in the city, or in the world? It all depends on the age of the child or youth as well as their willingness to engage in the topic at hand. Check out this guide from KQED, "What to Say to Kids When The News is Scary."


When my daughter was going into middle school, she told me that she did not need to hear my general history lectures/sermons/conversations about social justice, the effects of addiction, people experiencing homelessness, how LGBTQ+ people are treated around the world etc. I did my job. We still engage in conversations about these topics, but she guides the intensity and length of the conversation. My son endured these lecture/sermon/conversations as well, but he luckily has gotten my abridged version. My goal is to provide a safe space in which to connect with my kids. They now initiate conversations in the car, at dinner time, and whenever they need to be heard.


When the kids were little we had bite-sized conversations about hard things and watched curated images on the computer or in books as we had no TV. We went to The Women's March, The March for Our Lives, March for Reproductive Justice, March for Immigrant Families, and The Pride March. Attending marches showed us how people came together to speak, share stories, and take action. Praying with church friends during worship services and events help us to feel strength, safety, and the presence of God.  Real time events that take place in the presence of others helped us accurately understand context. That context can be lost when watching news, videos, and streamed shows that often prioritize violence, trauma, and misinformation. The gamut of media intake can be a lot to unpack with ourselves and kids.


Common Sense Media (CSM) has been a resource that helped me choose age-appropriate movies when the kids were little. Click on the CSM online article and video to find ways to approach talking with your children about disturbing news. I followed their suggestion to have bite-sized conversations until the kids were asking more complex questions.


When the pandemic arrived all TV and video control was thrown out the window. My 8th grade daughter and 6th grade son binge-watched more shows in a year than I watched in my growing up years. Gen X kids watched a lot of TV, movies, and disturbing news, so that is saying a lot. During the pandemic, I would ask my kids, "If you experience something that you can't unsee and want to process it, will you please talk with me or dad about it." I know that they saw and heard a lot. We watched a few shows together. Dinner hour (after everyone has eaten some food) has been an opportune time to talk about the national and global news, as well as ongoing issues at school or in San Francisco. Being present with one another is the best gift we can give.

By Rev. Victor Floyd March 30, 2025
The Good Shepherd calls home all of the sheep, even "those" sheep. No matter how far you've wandered, no matter who has tried to separate you from God's fold, Jesus is waiting. It's time for a homecoming. 
A blooming fig fruit on a fig tree
By Rev. Marci Glass March 23, 2025
Jesus continues his journey to Jerusalem and his disciples ask him a question as they walk. They want him to answer the questions we always want God to answer for us too—why do bad things happen to good people? Join us as we consider Jesus' answer to the question.
Mary & Martha by Lauren Wright Pittman - A golden, green, and blue depiction of Mary, Martha & Jesus
By Rev. Joann Lee March 16, 2025
The story of Mary and Martha is often painted as a story where one does right and one does wrong. We know, however, that life is often more complicated than that. We know that faith is embodied through being present and taking action—and everything in between. Join us on this second Sunday in Lent as we consider, how can we live along the spectrum of faith and works.
Cover image of the 2024 Annual Report.
By Rachel Wolf March 11, 2025
The 2024 Annual Report
An image of two palms facing each other - text reads
By Rev. Marci Glass March 9, 2025
In today's scripture reading, someone asks Jesus who, exactly, qualifies as a neighbor. Jesus tells the story of a person found half dead on the side of the road, but seen by at least one passerby as half alive, a neighbor worthy of care. Join us as we consider the question for today's world.
The Transfiguration by Augustin Kolawole Olayinka - a colorful triad of men in robes and a halo
By Rev. Joann Lee March 2, 2025
Stay woke! Or we might miss the glory of God (at least according to Luke's gospel). The Gospels of Matthew, Mark, and Luke all record the story of Jesus's transfiguration on the mountaintop. But only Luke records that the disciples witnessed this amazing transformation because they had stayed awake. In a time when we are tired and overwhelmed with exhausting news, how can we stay awake to witness what God is doing in the world and in our lives?
A woman kissing the feet of Jesus and wiping them with her hair
By Rev. Marci Glass February 23, 2025
In today's story, a woman washes Jesus' feet with her tears, drying them with her hair. It's an intimate scene. An emotional scene. A costly scene. And it makes the rest of the guests uncomfortable. We don't know her story, but we see her response to Jesus. How do we respond to grace, forgiveness, and second chances? Do we welcome second chances for others or just for ourselves?
“Magnificat” (Luke 1:52-53) by Benjamin Wildflower, man with fist in air stepping on a snake
By Rev. Victor Floyd February 16, 2025
What makes for a trustworthy prophet? Let’s learn a spiritually sound way to vet our current-day prophets. We need clarity—and hope—for these troubled times. And, friends, there is hope!
A black and white image of a billboard that reads 'thank god for immigrants'
By Rev. Marci Glass February 9, 2025
In today's story, Jesus interacts with people outside of his own community, and offers healing to people some would say were unworthy. How do we build community and healing across the lines that divide us?
A bird sitting on top of a sign that prohibits bird.
By Rev. Joann Lee February 2, 2025
Rest and sabbath are necessary. As such, work was prohibited on the sabbath in observance of God's example in creation and commandment in Exodus. But when do our rules hinder rather than promote healing, wholeness, and shalom in our lives? Are Sabbath Day sins allowable in certain circumstances?
More Posts
Share by: